Love and Marriage

A student asks a teacher, “What is love?”
The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.

” The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders… may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another bigger one… But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.

The teacher told him, “this is love… You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person…”

“What is marriage then?” the student asked.
The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, “This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get… This is marriage.”

Contentment and Thankfulness

How much money is enough? How many cars can you drive and how many pairs of shoes can you wear? And why isn't one man or woman enough to keep you at home, or even two? The truth is people are never satisfied. When they're struggling financially they cry, "If I could just find a decent job and get back on my feet!" But the minute they get that decent job they immediately go deeper into debt charging up credit cards trying to have MORE! When people find themselves in bad relationships they pray for God to send them a good man or women. But not long after we receive that person into our lives we often begin to take them for granted. Instead of being thankful we want MORE! If you really think about l it, most of us could do with less... less cable, less big screen TV's, less clothes, and certainly less people to have sex with. Until we start appreciating what we have and start cultivating relationships with people who love us for who we are instead what they can get...we'll never be satisfied, and as a result, we'll never truly be happy! ~ Michael Baisden

Pain and the Container

The old Master instructed an unhappy young man to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and Then to drink it.How does it taste?" the Master asked.
"Awful," spat the apprentice.
The Master chuckled and then asked the young man to take another handful of salt and put it in the lake.
The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and when the apprentice swirled his handful of salt into the lake,
The old man said, "Now drink from the lake."
As the water dripped down the young man's chin, the Master asked, "How does it taste?""Good!" remarked the apprentice. "Do you taste the salt?" asked the Master. "No," said the young man.The Master sat beside this troubled young man, took his hands, and said,"The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less.The amount of pain in life remains the same, exactly the same. But the amount we taste the 'pain' depends on the container we put it into.
So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things .....

Stop being a Glass ,Become a LAKE!

Support and Forgiveness

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. One morning, when the boy was around two years old, the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and put it in the cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to it and, fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned; she was terrified. How would she face her husband? When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words. “I Love You Darling.” The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he have taken time to put the bottle away, this would not have happened. No point in attaching blame. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who’s to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know and miss out on the warmth in human relationships we could receive by giving each other support. After all, shouldn't forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do? Treasure what you have. Don’t multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding onto forgiveness. Let go of all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think. If everyone could look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be fewer problems in the world.